Do You Think You Need A Divorce, But Don’t Know Where To Start?
Of course all couples have disagreements and fights, and marriage is almost always a lot of work. Just because you said “I Do” in front of your friends and family, doesn’t mean you’re going to agree on everything, and often it’s not until you’re confronted with big challenges like the loss of a job or a family member, or the stress of having your first child, that major differences and incompatibilities start to arise.
While there are lots of options that can be explored before considering divorce, like counseling and working to improve your communications, we know that sometimes, a couple really can’t make it work and a divorce becomes the best option, and that’s okay. Maybe you’ve tried counseling to no avail, but serious issues like infidelity or abuse have made the option of reconciliation highly unlikely or even impossible. Whatever the situation, getting a divorce is never easy and just getting to the point of admitting that you think you need a divorce can be emotionally taxing for both spouses.
The process of where to start can be exhausting- how can you procure a lawyer or talk about shared custody if you don’t even have the emotional strength to tell your friends and family yet? When you know you need a divorce, it helps to have advocates on your side, and often it’s the unbiased outsiders who will give you the best, most objective advice.
Most people can’t afford to have a therapist on call, and when it comes to the process of getting a divorce (or dissolution or annulment), you might find you need a second opinion at 2 am or on a Sunday and don’t know where to turn. Having an unbiased mentor or listener can help you sort through your jumbled emotions and plan the immediate steps needed to get through the logistics and legal process of divorce, as well as the social and emotional implications.
We recommend connecting with a guru on Turtlewise to achieve great advice on how to approach the subject of your divorce with your soon to be former in-laws, your mutual friends, and even your children. Sites like TurtleWise.net connect you to trusted advisors and listeners who have personal experience with divorce. They will ensure you get sound advice, in a confidential and unbiased way (unlike having to turn to friends and family for help!). For legal expertise on the process, costs, and expectations of divorce or a dissolution in your state, we recommend checking your county’s family court website as well as legal advice sites likeFamily Law Rights or divorce how-to sites like Divorce Net.
Making sure you’re well informed on your options and have advocates on your side helping you make financial, legal, and lifestyle decisions during this often confusing and scary time will ensure you end up in a positive position to reach your next phase of your life without your spouse.
It can feel overwhelming when you know you need a divorce, but you do not need to feel alone. There are options out there for advice and advocacy from experienced, unbiased listeners who are happy to be able to help you through this difficult time, and connecting with them is often as easy as sitting down to your computer.
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